How to OUTSMART Self-Sabotage Once and For All

If it feels like you are cursed with forever taking one step forward and two steps back, then you too are no stranger to the Spirit of self-sabotage (and yes it has its own spirit). You want to move forward but every time you try to walk forward, you come up against this fucking annoying wall of resistance. You’re starting to question if the universe even wants you to have everything you desire. Maybe everyone else gets to have it, but not you. Maybe you’re meant to be ok with what you have. Maybe you’re not doing enough and you need to be doing more.

Stop.

Before you do anything else. You need to understand the mechanics of the universe, for real or you will find yourself looping in the same self-sustaining cycle.

Here’s how to finally get out from under the weight of self-sabotage so you can stop self-destructing your destiny.

The first thing you need to understand is the universe is lazy.

God created the universe to be a PERFECT system and like all systems it prefers equilibrium (balance) and energy efficiency. It won’t change until YOU do.

“You go first and the universe responds.”

So when you want to create a new reality/result you need to shift into a new frequency.

This means you have an Old Frequency connected to your current reality and a New Frequency connected to your desired reality. Your Old Frequency has an entity. An entity is an organism without a physical body made up of thought forms and beliefs. Think of it like you’re doppelgänger in the Spiritual Realm. You and this spiritual doppelgänger used to do everything together and now you want to break up with it..

and breakups usually go one of two ways:

ONE: you try to move on from them, but you miss the way you felt with that person, no matter how toxic it might have been, it was your home. It was familiar. It’s what you know versus going out into the unknown world of dating.

OR TWO: you make a decision so strong that you are never going back to them again. You delete their phone number, the photos on your phone and you kill off all options for going back.

The word “De-cide” has the same root as suicide, pesticide, genocide, it means to KILL off all other options. You are focused on one way forward. You burned your ship, like Alexander the Great who burnt his ships at the shore so his army had no option to retreat.

You want to break up for real, for real with your Old Frequency (thought forms and beliefs) so you can step into your New Frequency and create your desired reality -

How do you do that?

There is the slow way and then there is the fast way.

The slow way is repetition. It’s repeating a new thought and belief until it becomes a knowing and your new energetic signature. It's affirmations, journalling, mirror work. 

The fast way is more precise and efficient, and once complete, collapses time and space between you and your desired reality.

Reality is a fractal system.

You have a fractal energetic signature.

A fractal is a geometric pattern that repeats itself at different scales. One belief can show up in your life in many different ways. At all levels.

One small change can lead to a large-scale effects in fractal systems, tiny alterations to initial conditions create dramatically different outcomes (the "butterfly effect"). Similarly, changing one small thought or habit can cascade through your entire belief system.

To break a recurring pattern you need to become aware of it so you can find the "seed", the anchor keeping it in place - once you identify the core limiting belief that generates your self-sabotaging behaviors (this is often a fundamental belief about worthiness or capability) you are free to create new one.

The “seed” is a fundamental piece of how your system has been wired to perceive and generate reality. Until you isolate it, you will keep running the same cycles, no matter how much effort you put into change.

The pull of the old pattern is strongest right before the shift. It will feel unnatural. It will feel uncomfortable. The mind will invent a thousand reasons why the deviation is unnecessary, why it would be easier to handle the next iteration of the loop instead. That is the final trap. If you hesitate here, if you allow the pattern to complete itself again, the recursion resets. The cycle starts over.

But if you hold, if you move through the discomfort and make the shift before the loop can close, the pattern collapses. The fractal does not know what to do. The structure has been interrupted. The script cannot play out.

This is the break. This is the moment the recursion ends. And this is where reality begins to change.

A new thought form or belief > new vibration > becomes your new frequency > the universe receives your new energetic signal and starts a new self-sustaining cycle aligned to it.

The break up is complete. You can no never go backwards.

You are on a new timeline. The universe will put the people, conditions and circumstances in front of you that match the new frequency you are on.

Now you can keep moving forward, without feeling like a weight is constantly pulling you back down.